Hey guys.  My girlfriend just completed a short 8 minute documentary society's definition of masculinity.  She did this for her Bachelor of Science in Nursing program.  She ended up getting 100% so I am kind of proud of her.
 

 
My reason for posting this here is 99.9% of members here are male, and we like guns, cars, things that blow up, etc., etc.  However, what are your thoughts on the whole "Man up", or "Boys don't cry" sayings that are societal norms.  Is it OK for a boy/man to cry or show emotion?  I'm not talking about being a mushy wimp and crying every time you stub your toe or spill your milk, I am talking about real emotion and if you think it is OK.  I grew up being told it wasn't OK.  How about you guys, any thoughts on this?
 
Also, she used a picture of me giving my son a hug.....I am in the red Team Canada jersey wearing a hat and my son is in the yellow hoodie.
 
Thanks.

I get emotional watching videos of soldiers returning home to their families, When the Daughter/Son/Dad/Mom/Girlfriend cries. Partially because of the fact that I so badly want to join the military and serve my country, But I lack willpower to fulfill my goals in life.
^ I don't cry though, Not to that.
 
I think the whole "Man Up" or "I'm a man, I don't cry" is all BS. When my grandmother from my moms side died, Everyone cried, Including my dad... Except one of my uncles who is always a "tough" guy and has been through a lot of stuff, But that's just what he wanted us to think... Every single day for the next 3 months he would leave straight from work to the mountains to go hiking until he couldn't walk anymore, Which wasn't normal for him, he would come and was serious as heck....
 
It is okay to cry sometimes. Unless you're franbunnyffxii. 

It's OK to cry at a funeral, watch your baby take her/his first steps, see your daughter take her wedding vows, etc

JustinHEMI

rjohnson11
It's OK to cry at a funeral, watch your baby take her/his first steps, see your daughter take her wedding vows, etc

 
That's really what I was getting at. The notion that men don't cry or show emotion is simply not true. Most men cry or show emotion at the appropriate times. What some women want, though, is for their men to sit there in some crappy romantic movie and cry with them..., for example.
 
I watched the video in the OP, and I sort of get the feeling that that's what it's gearing towards.
 
Justin

The video is about just being.  Letting boys/men feel what they need to feel, or not feel, and show it if they need to.  If you feel you need to cry, then let it out.  I was told when I was growing up that it wasn't OK for boys or men to cry or show any "weakness" at all.  It isn't about being all sappy and weepy.  It is just about being yourself in the end and not being afraid to show your feelings if you want to......not showing feelings that aren't there to please someone else.

BF3PRO
I cry everyday when I hear universal healthcare and what the left and right are doing...

That reminds me I have to see my doctor next week, thanks.
 
Really though, the U.S. will never have Universal health care so you need not worry.  What Obama is doing to it though......yes cry about that......it was just taking a bad system, smashing it with a hammer, then blindly duct taping all the pieces together in a jumbled mess and calling it better.

What your talking about is essentially empathy, sympathy, compassion etc... from a male perspective, which if you don't have means your some sort of psychopath and that's not good either. Theres nothing wrong with being in touch with humanity and comfortable enough within your own skin enough TO cry.

BF3PRO

kaninja

BF3PRO
I cry everyday when I hear universal healthcare and what the left and right are doing...

That reminds me I have to see my doctor next week, thanks.  Really though, the U.S. will never have Universal health care so you need not worry.  What Obama is doing to it though......yes cry about that......it was just taking a bad system, smashing it with a hammer, then blindly duct taping all the pieces together in a jumbled mess and calling it better.

Yes but both sides are at fault.

It is just a mess.  Health Care shouldn't be run as a for-profit-system IMO......but you know my opinion on this and that isn't what this thread is about.  We Canadians take us much pride in our Universal Healthcare System as the U.S. does in it's right to bear arms.
 

wmmills
What your talking about is essentially empathy, sympathy, compassion etc... from a male perspective, which if you don't have means your some sort of psychopath and that's not good either. Theres nothing wrong with being in touch with humanity and comfortable enough within your own skin enough TO cry.

 
Absolutely.

kaninja

JustinHEMI

rjohnson11It's OK to cry at a funeral, watch your baby take her/his first steps, see your daughter take her wedding vows, etc

 That's really what I was getting at. The notion that men don't cry or show emotion is simply not true. Most men cry or show emotion at the appropriate times. What some women want, though, is for their men to sit there in some crappy romantic movie and cry with them..., for example. I watched the video in the OP, and I sort of get the feeling that that's what it's gearing towards. Justin

The video is about just being.  Letting boys/men feel what they need to feel, or not feel, and show it if they need to.  If you feel you need to cry, then let it out.  I was told when I was growing up that it wasn't OK for boys or men to cry or show any "weakness" at all.  It isn't about being all sappy and weepy.  It is just about being yourself in the end and not being afraid to show your feelings if you want to......not showing feelings that aren't there to please someone else.

Gotcha. Then I agree.

Justin