So far I've gotten mine stable in games at..
+125 core +1000 mem
That's with power at 114% and voltage maxed. I'm considering flashing the EVGA more power bios and see if I can get my core any higher. Thermals certainly aren't an issue at my current settings. Not even close to being a consideration when changing settings so I think using the other bios wouldn't be an issue.
Pretty sure I'd get crashes (assuming I can clock the core higher) before thermals became an issue even with the extra potential power use. EVGA's air cooler on the FTW3 Ultra series is top notch. I had a 2080ti FTW3 Ultra that ran stable at +170 core +1000 mem on regular bios and also had amazing thermals. Basically the same as the 3080ti.
I've also upgraded system ram to Samsung B Die. So now I'm at 4200mt CL15, dual rank, dual channel.
2 weeks (most of it waiting for and OC'ing sys mem) and I've improved performance quite a bit.