I have similar issue with yours, symptomps looks the same:
1. shuts down in the middle of gaming (temp max 74, not sure on the mem temp), but it runs ok in low load (non gaming),
2. Can only be turned on after couple minutes,
At first i thought my psu is giving up on me since im using evga ftw3 ultra 3080 + ryzen 5 5600x, paired with Antec Neo Eco gold 700 watt.
turns out my 320mm aio front mounting completely blocked with dust which blocked the airflow). Cleaned up everything and voila it runs smoothly again (tested with 1 hour gaming).
Really can’t ignore good airflow to run this beast.