I’ve realized that sometimes it’s the best to completely walk away from negative people emotionally. If someone feels a specific way about you and views you in a negative light, you feel the need to constantly prove who you are (even more so if this person is someone who truly love and care deeply about). It’s better to lay the groundwork stating that one day you would love to have some sort of a relationship ONLY if they are open to see you for the person you truly are. You can say the exact right words at the right exact time, but if their heart isn’t right they will never receive a word you say

Sometimes people are already convinced of their opinions and they themselves will do anything they can to prove they are right at all costs and completely stop being objective.

By removing yourself from toxic and negative situations, you give others opportunities to see that you value yourself enough to no longer be needlessly hurt - hopefully this leads them to self-evaluate. Often times negativity is a projection of their issues and has nothing to do with you.

Remove yourself from those situations, otherwise you are constantly putting yourself out there to simply go through more and more pain . If you have confidence in yourself, know your heart, know your identity, it truly doesn’t matter what anyone says or thinks about you.

You also must look at your heart through the process and love regardless of how they act. But you need to love from a distance and must learn to protect yourself, because you are worth it ❤️

been there done that can never get back the time and energy I wasted on that person.
until I moved on and are happy now with a good person I can be myself around

Reminds me of something I learned far later than I wish I had, that when you have to deal with people who have no interest in helping you, listening, or understanding, you have to deal with them very differently than otherwise. Still not sure exactly how that should be, but it seems a lot harder. One thing I do know, is that for me, I have to sometimes be very deliberate on thinking about what they are thinking, wanting, and feeling, and that there is a very high chance it completely different from what I'm thinking, wanting and feeling. It's something that can be very draining in my case anyway, as it doesn't come naturally, and is sometimes questionable when and if it's worth it.
Sometimes you do just need to walk away, even more so if toxicity is all you're getting.

Avoid negative people whenever possible.

 
Cutting people out of your life doesn't mean you hate them, it simply means you respect yourself.
 

Thanks for the great advice everyone :)

How has your health been btw?

Hypothetically...what would be the advantages if we were being socially engineered to be this way?

I say this cuz alot of your comments made me realize how each of us not only encounter this, but deal with and live with this every day.

No point better taken!  Some very wise words here!

brcromer
Mean people suck.  That's a completely new idea I just had.  Be sure to use it elsewhere and note that I made it up.  :)

Here Here! Also, hi. 
 
Mean people don't suck. They are just misguided and need more nice people to show them Da Wae.
 
 
Peace and hippie love to you all!

VegetaCreeper
I’ve learned that it doesn’t matter what happens, it’s all about how we respond to anything and everything. We get to choose who we want to be. Each thought, motive and action taken captive can guide us to become who our family and friends need us to be.

Be you.

Well said.

I found that very interesting and inspiring it will give me a new perspective