So... Ive left everything stock for now after seeing things that should not be happening. Instability, (I don't think due to heat...), a ram stick not being detected with evga ROBOT OC if OC is too high, GPU with x1 program is a disaster, and cpu is ALL over the place. I really need some professional advice and help with this, as I am deeply worried now. Specs:
MOBO: x299 Dark (I did set TJunction in bios to 86)
CPU: 10980xe
GPU: 2080 TI Ftw3 Ultra
RAM: Trident Z w/ XMP Profile 1, 32 (4x8) 3200hz 16-18-18 (XMP  profile was always enabled in all these situations)
AIO: Evga 360 AIO (replaced fans w/Noctua)
Case: Lian Li 011 Dynamic
PSU: T2 1600
Problem 1: When using EVGA robot OC, I got highest core being 01 5.2ghz/1.525 and lowest being 13 4.6ghz/1.25 (Ill take screenshot after this). All cores at 75 degrees C, or lower. Problem is, once I boot those settings, one of my ram sticks isn't recognized. Ive got 24 gigs of ram on boot. Red light on board. And... isn't 1.525 volts insane?
 
Problem 2: My own overclock (ratio clock) was set to 4.7ghz, 32vmesh, with 1.25 Vcore adaptive w/ -100 offset and 1.3 Vmesh w/ -100 offset. Prime95 test for an hour with this, 81 degrees C was highest I recorded. Passed cinebench everytime, and 3dmark. Spent 16 hours with these settings, playing games and using applications. Try prime 95 again: crash. Again: crash. Now I'm here. Why is this happening?
 
Problem 3: The gpu… I don't know if its x1 program or the gpu itself but wow, this has been terrible. Was able to max all the settings and set core to 175 in x1. Added 1000 to memory. Stable in 3dmark, games, no stuttering smooth. I go to test the the 4.7ghz manual overclock, worked once in 3dmark, then ever since downhill from there. Set core to 145, memory to 0, still crashed. Changed to DEFAULT settings, still crashed. Restarted and tested over and over until finally its stable with 4.7 manual cpu oc. GPU is at +91 clock, max voltage and power curve/temps. STILL gets stutters but was able to pass 3dmark multiple times with oc cpu. So, is this a decent gpu overclock? The stutters stopped, but come and go regardless of GPU OC or not.  After any change, and after every test, I restarted the pc.
 
Problem 4: Just trying to find the best overclock for the 10980xe... and I need help. Ive tried to include everything I noticed while testing these past 24 hours.

Cinebench score: (4.7 manual better than 4.8 robot OC) 10533
3dmark Time Spy score: GPU: 15562 CPU: 12551 Max 15021. (3 stutters, have no clue how I could get this but a non overclock gpu would crash othertimes). 
 
PHOTOS: Ive got an imgur link but ah... I cant post links til my 30th post. 

I have to give Cool GTX a BIG +1 on his help :)
I also do not have your CPU but have Benched (Set CPU/MB/Mem for all out speed) the i9-7900x (ES) and the i9-9820x. I have the i9-10940x ordered and waiting for shipment but I can give you some general help.
I recommend HWInfo64 and Core Temp (both are free!!) to keep an EYE on the temps :) You can also use CPU-Z (also free!!) to give you a quick (real-time) reading of CPU speed/voltage/multi & Memory speed/timings/mesh speed and some other things. Download EVGA's E-Leet software for real-time OC without having to reboot computer.
I would start with your CPU and set the Multi/Voltage to AUTO. I would also change the Mesh Ratio/Voltage to Auto. (On the older CPU's this is 26)
Boot into Windows and run HWInfo to give you a temp reading. This is a HUGH list of all temp readings from your CPU/MB/GPU/HDD/SSD/Ect..Ect.. Core Temp lists only your CPU temps.
Both will show you what your CURRENT temp and MAX temp are PER CORE.
Run your program - Prime 95 or Cinebench 20 - and you will see your temperatures rise. If you wish long term stability - make sure that the temperature never goes over 90c.
You can raise the CPU speed higher (E-Leet) until you get close to what YOU wish the temp of the CPU to be. An extra 100MHz on you hottest cores can add up to +8c. This will also let you know which of your CPU cores are running cooler. You can increase these to run faster.
Once you have the speed of your CPU dialed in, you can move to the Mesh Ratio. This also adds additional HEAT to your overall CPU output. I have been able to run my x299 at a Mesh Ratio of 30 and a Memory Speed of 4000 @ 14-14-14-28 (TeamGroup DDR4-4133).
You should be able to set the Mesh Ratio to 28 or 30 and only incur an extra ~2c-4c increase in heat.
If you wish to see how this affects your overall memory speed, you can download AIDA64 and run the memory test (<-This is also free)
Now that you have the CPU/MB setup, you can move to the Video Card. <- BE WARNED -> EVGA's Video Overclocking software does not let EVGA's MB Overclocking software to work :( The Standard Video Overclocking Software is MSI's AfterBurner OCing software. If you wish to use EVGA's Video software & E-Leet .. That is another POST/Help Request.
 
The LOST MEMORY STICK.... -> Remove your memory and carefully clean the Memory slots with a pipe cleaner. Clean the tips (the part that goes inside the memory slots) with a paper towel and 70% alcohol (90% is preferred as it has less added chemicals). Remove the memory sticks and switch the arrangement of the memory sticks.
Is that Memory Stick still BAD or is it the Memory Slot??
Is that Memory Rated as a Quad (x4) or Dual (x2) Channel??
^ I RE - RE - reRead your BIOS picture and you have LOST that Memory because of :
1:The Mesh Ratio is too high for that CPU (I can't run that fast!!)
2:The Mesh Ratio needs more Voltage. Increasing you mesh from 30 - 32 will get your standard web page to open .0001%  faster :-) Unless you are chasing the last ~300-500 Points in Cinebench  20...WHY. It will not make your games faster = Better Video Card.
* The Video Card Stuttering can be - The CPU is overheating and having to Throttle (taking a break) or The GPU is overheating and having to Throttle. When you OVERCLOCK Stability goes out the WINDOW.
 
Thank You For Your Time